Wolf SilverOak
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Jun. 20th, 2015

Facebook's 'authentic name' bullshit continues. #MyNameIs

A friend contacted me this week about a friend of hers who now has to confirm her name. This person is even a published author under the name she chooses to use publicly. She at least will have plenty of documentation to back herself up.

However, the friend of mine who was hit yesterday with the 'confirm your' name bullshit, doesn't.

I've known her by the name she uses online for as long as I've known here- 7-8 years now. She, however, doesn't have near as much documentation as I had. But you know what? That shouldn't matter. The fact that THIS is the name she chooses to be known by is all that should matter.

Facebook shouldn't be forcing people to go through this humiliating, demeaning and invasive process just to prove that yes, they are using an 'authentic' name according to whatever halfassed algorithm they have decided to use.

People's FRIENDS and FAMILY are the ones who should decide is the name is authentic or not. The person USING the name should be the one to decide whether that name is authentic or not. Not some faceless entity on a damn computer.

This is absolutely ridiculous and it needs to stop, not increase. People really need to start speaking up about this, not waiting until Facebook comes for them or their friends. Otherwise, soon, there won't be any friends to speak up for them.

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Jun. 3rd, 2015

I won. But it is a hollow victory. #MyNameIs

Copy/pasted from what I posted on Facebook-

I'm trying to figure a way to couch this in not quite swear laden terms. This will be *very* long, but *everyone* needs to read it, because it could happen to you and it *is* happening to others. I got lucky.

Essentially, last Monday, Facebook, either through someone reporting my name or their screwy algorithm, decided I was not using my 'authentic' name. I had 7 days to gather documentation and confirm my name.

Only, you don't get to confirm your name. You get to submit all the documentation they claim to accept and then *hope* that some faceless entity at Facebook HQ will approve of the name you choose to go by. You don't get to have your friends vouch for you because they don't get asked. And if you follow the rules as I did and submit documentation they require that shows your birth date, ie, a government issued ID with your legal name on it- which can be very different from an authentic name- then *that* may well be the only thing they look at and they will deny your authentic name and require you to change to that legal name on the id they requested. In fact, they will even change it prior to whether you appeal or go ahead with the change- I received a weekly stats report for my business page with a name on it that has never been associated with that page.

In the meantime, after you've submitted the documentation they require, at the end of the 7 days- to the minute that they first request the confirmation- you *will* lose all access to your personal page. The media is claiming you can still access it. No, you cannot. To rub salt in the wound, you will also, if you set it up that way, receive email notices of friends' posts that you cannot even view.

A little less than 24 hours after I submitted the required 3 pieces of documentation, Facebook emailed me back and denied my authentic name. They claimed it did not match the ID I sent them. They asked if I wanted to change to my legal name, as per the ID. Of course I did not. THIS name is the name I have used since the day I first got online in the mid 1990s, back in North Carolina. It is the name associuated with my business. It is the name 99% of my friends and quite a few members of my family, to include my husband when he introduces me to new people, calls and knows me by. It is the name that the estranged members of my maternal birth family cannot find me under- had one track me down about 5 years ago and I do not want to relive that experience. There are many friends here with whom has experienced Alzheimer's in their family and we tend to rely on each other for support sometimes- Facebook cut me off from that. Facebook cut me off from family members I otherwise don't get to interact with often. Facebook cut me off from friends whom I've known since 1992 (I'm looking at you, Ackerly).

I sent them *more* documentation, 3 pages of cut and pasted screenshots from various places I use this name online, showing length of use, birth date, etc. It was not enough. They denied it again, out of hand.

I then sent them- as Mark called it- a very impassioned letter stating that this was unacceptable and that they *do not* get to take my name from me. I also included roughly 2 dozen or more pages of documentation- those same screenshots that I'd cut and pasted into 3 pages. As my brother said in a comment here- they picked the wrong person.

I'm not sure which did it- the letter calling them out or the mounds of documentation. But they confirmed my name and gave me access back to my page.

However, I found this entire experience to be horrifying, demeaning and invasive. It stressed me out, made me depressed and gave me anxiety induced insomnia. As a result of this experience, Facebook has soured for me. For the forseeable future, this will be my last post here. I will be disconnecting Twitter so it no longer crossposts. My blog rarely does, so no worries there.

This should *not* have happened in the first place. And yet, it is happening to someone, right now and they may not be as lucky as me and have 20+ years of documentation to back themselves up. This policy of using authentic names and then accepting it when Facebook is presented with the proper documentation, repeatedly, until either the person wins or they give up, needs to stop.

They tried to take my name from me. I won. But someone else won't be as lucky.

Enough is enough.

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No longer on Facebook, #MyNameIs

They denied my 'authentic name' yesterday.

I will no longer be using Facebook as a personal page. The business page will slowly go away as well.

They WILL NOT allow me the use of the name I have gone by since the first day I signed up on the Internet. They have denied my friends the right to use the name I have gone by for over 20 years.

The wording they used in the email to deny it, makes it very clear that their 'authentic name policy', - "what your friends call you" ( Facebook is a community where people use their authentic identities. We require people to provide the name they use in real life; that way, you always know who you're connecting with... The name you use should be your authentic identity; as your friends call you in real life and as our acceptable identification forms would show </a>, is nothing but smoke and mirrors.

Note that acceptable id forms still means you have to upload an official government ID and that THAT is really the only thing they will look at, it is under Option 3, where it claims it is only for the purpose of verifying the birth date. They also lie when they say they won't add the information on the legal id to your personal page- how else are they going to force you to change it and believe me, they DO use that info to try to force a change, because I DID NOT give them my legal name any other way. And option 2? Most of those DO NOT have photos or birth dates associated with them either.

"Option 2

You can provide two different forms of ID from the following list (ex: a bank statement and a library card, but not two bank statements). The names on your IDs must match each other, and one of the IDs must include a photo or date of birth that matches the information on your profile.

Below are some examples of IDs we'll accept:

◾Bank statement
◾Bus card
◾Credit card
◾Employment verification
◾Library card
◾Magazine subscription stub
◾Medical record
◾Membership ID (ex: pension card, union membership, work ID, professional ID)
◾Paycheck stub
◾School card
◾School record
◾Social Security card
◾Utility bill
◾Yearbook photo (actual scan or photograph of the page in your yearbook)

Option 3
If you don’t have an ID that shows your authentic name as well as your photo or date of birth, you can provide two forms of ID from Option 2 above, and then provide a government ID that includes a date of birth or photo that matches the information on your profile. We won't add the name or other information from the government ID to your account." )

I provided them with over 20 years worth of documentation, with statements from friends, with everything they asked for and then some. But in their coding, they have already decided and wiped my name from existence on Facebook- I got the 'weekly page stats' email for my business page this morning and it had a name on it that is in no way associated with the email the weekly stats were sent to.

So. Since this is unacceptable to me, since they obviously do not care about their users- we already knew they didn't care about small businesses anyway, that's why they skew the stats so much for business pages- I will not allow them to put a name on my personal page that I have never once used publicly online, not in over 25 years, and rarely off line, publicly in over 15 years. I refuse to allow them to put my legal name on there because I do not, healthwise, need a repeat of 5 years ago, when an estranged member of my maternal birth family did find me, did email me and even sent me a letter in the mail, detailing that they knew exactly where I was. I do not need to relive the overwhelming anxiety and resulting depression from that day.

That means my account is currently deactivated. And it will remain so until they say, yes, that is your authentic name, or do away with the farce of a policy entirely.

Facebook is not the end all, be all of promoting online. There are other ways and I just let them slide. So. It's back to blogging regularly, back to Twitter, back to Tumblr, going to Ello and yes, even though Facebook, ironically, owns Instagram where I can use the name I am known by, it means going to Instagram.

The funny thing is, 4 years ago, I didn't even want to join Facebook. I felt I didn't need another social networking site. But then fellow small business owners raved about the views they got from there, and sales, etc, so I gave it a shot. I never got back what I put into it, except in the terms of friends on my personal page, where I was able to reconnect with some who'd left the blogging world for Facebook. It took awhile, because I didn't recognize many of them, because they didn't have the names I'd known them by. That should have been my first and last clue.

I do think that eventually, this real/authentic name policy will come back to bite Facebook and Zuckerberg in the ass. Hopefully in the form of a major lawsuit by a domestic abuse survivor or, at worst case, their family, when their abuser finds them and hurts or, gods forbid, kills them as a result of this bullshit policy.

Because, I do believe that's what it's going to take to get them to wake up.

In the meantime, I will no longer be there.

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Jun. 2nd, 2015

Facebook's Authentic Name Fiasco, part III

This was originally in response to this post Which, ironically, though I can log in to HuffPost with my Twitter account, I CANNOT COMMENT because I no longer have access to my Facebook account.

They are no longer simply targeting drag queens, transgender, Native Americans, etc.

They are targeting *anyone* with a name that 'they' think isn't 'authentic'.

I know this because they targeted me last week. I have used my name for over 20 years, in my personal life and as a pseudonym for my business. It is the name my friends call me, that my family calls me, that my customers see on their invoices. It is the name I use because I do not wish to be stalked and harassed by certain estranged members of my birth mother's family, to include her. In fact, I was found by one person about 5 years ago and the anxiety and fear resulting from it was so bad, I called my husband in tears, demanding that we move, right now, and I didn't care where.

They lie when they say that you no longer have to provide legal documents, as in a government issued ID. That is *still* required, even with any other documents you can provide with the name you go by. They claim it's so they can see that the birth dates match, whatever that's supposed to mean.

You have 7 days to comply with their wishes of verifiable documentation- and the verifiability of such is at their whim, and after those 7 days, your account is *still* suspended. You have absolutely no access whatsoever. To rub salt in the wound, if you set it up that way, you will *still* get email notices of things your friends post or their status updates, yet you can't even look at them.

You have no way to know where you stand in their verifying process either, the only thing you get is a notice that they will get back to you if they need more documentation (I'm waiting for that to happen, I have 20+ years worth for them).

They claim to have clarified the language to mean the name you go by in public, and yet, the TOU still says you have to use your real, legal name. And they get to decide whether that name is real enough, authentic enough or not. Not you. Not your family. Not your friends.

Their authentic name policy is not helping anyone. It is driving users away. I'm sure their investors must be so happy about that.

And no, I *still* do not have access to my personal page.

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May. 26th, 2015

Facebook's authentic name fiasco, part 2

So. I have 2 of the 3 'acceptable pieces of documentation' Facebook wants to verify that I am using my authentic name.

And then some. I have over a dozen various websites, dating as far back as 2003 with this name. I have an old USMC shirt from 1992 with my this first name. I have statements from friends who've known me longer than Facebook has even been around- by this name. I have posts from new friends who state this is my name, as it is the name I was introduced to them by.

I have a portfolio with this name, followed by Artist. I have signed cds from a local band with a large Facebook presence and whom I am friends with two members of, with this name on it.

My business packaging is branded with this name. It is on photos I took dating back to 2000 and earlier.

I use this name to keep my birth mother and her extended family from finding me, as I have, by choice, had no contact with her in 35+ years and intend to keep it that way. If I am forced to change it, then I can guarantee they will find me in a matter of days.

I have friends who have known me for 25+ years sending me statements saying that this is the name they know me by. I have fellow Akita owners who I've helped with Rescue offering to vouch for me, that this is the name I am known by.

If Facebook looks at all this proof/evidence and denies me my name, then no one is safe, no matter what name they may use, no matter how innocuous sounding.

We need to tell Facebook that this policy needs to be stricken from the TOUs completely. It is not only affecting transgender, crossdressers and Native Americans, it is now affecting Artists who rely on pseudonyms like this for their livelihoods, it is affecting people who have cut all ties with family members, it is affecting people who are trying to lead a normal life and still manage to hide from stalkers and/or abusers.

Enough is enough.

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May. 25th, 2015

Facebook and their 'authentic name' bullshit.

So apparently, Facebook has decided that my name is not my name and wants proof.

This is the name I have used for over 20 years online. It is the name 99% of my friends in real life know me by.

It is the name I introduce myself to new people by.

It is the name my business is run under.

It is the name *my birth mother cannot find me by. * And that is the most important reason I use this name.

In all ways, it is my authentic name. A pseudonym is just as authentic and real as a birth name.

And now, I have 7 days to prove this to Facebook without giving them private information such as a driver's license, a marriage certificate, etc or I stand to lose my account.

Yup. Good job, Facebook, you've succeeded in helping stalkers and worse win. So much for that victory by the Queens in order to use their authentic names. Because this archaic demand to know all things personal about a person, has NOT gone away.

And I will not change my name to a name I do not go by.

So. If I lose my account, fuck them. I'll go back to Twitter and straight blogging instead and take my business elsewhere.

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