I have a family BUSH
Like I said before, I finally sat down and decided to figure out my family Tree. To that extent, I've found my dad's birth parents- his mother died in 2006 after they lost contact with her again due to her deciding to no longer want anything to do with them again, thanks to her family and her paranoia.
I also found his birth dad and his family.
Now, Dad's birth father died when he was about the age of 2. At that time, Dad was placed in the system and adopted. Of which I'm also working on tracing out too. (Along with my [step] Mom's family, Dad's adoptive family and Mark's family).
Turns out, Dad's birth dad's family KNEW about him, and knew he'd been placed for adoption, but that was it. They had been looking for him for several years now
I clicked on the right forum and the right thread and found the right message, all at the right time.
I found a half 4th cousin, once removed and have received enough of my family history to trace my dad's birth father's family back to our common ancestor- my 4x Great Grandfather, Eleazer.
I found a whole slew
of relatives we never knew about. To add to this, I have family now who lives within 4-5 hours of me.
I have to keep telling myself that this is DAD'S family, not my birth mother's, and to that end, I CAN have a relationship with them if I chose and want to. Unlike my birth mother's family that I have had no contact with in nearly 32 years, mostly by my choice.
Speaking of my birth mother- HER
family seems to have sprouted out of nowhere starting with her parents. Heh. I have found out that her ancestors have Native American blood in their ancestry, and at times, did not claim it on the census
. (Which is understandable, given the times and all, back then.)
There's a lot I still don't know and will have to wait until I go back home this spring, but there are still a lot of things I can search through and sites I can visit and hopefully find out more- WITHOUT
having to contact her.
Because right now? I'm still not willing to talk to her. Abandonment issues and all, dontchaknow.
But I found my Dad's birth father's family
. That's cool in and of itself.